Mission Statement

Linking up with Deb from Home life Simplified this week. Her challenge was to write a family mission statement. 

I wrote it out at length, but decided to shorten it to:

I wanted something that encompasses our core values, but was succinct enough to put on our fridge to remind us of where we are heading. I am not very clever with the whole design thing, so for the time being will leave it like that, but will look for a way to make it a bit more "awesome" for when I print it out. These concepts will be the basis of how we parent our children and how we will strive to live our life.

Live -  living life to the fullest, making the most of any opportunities that are passed our way, trying to make sure we never have any regrets

Love - with our whole hearts, particularly our family and knowing that no matter what comes our way, love will be what keeps us together. I think it is important for our kids to grow up knowing that no matter what they do in life, no matter what path they take, no matter what mistakes they make, we will always love them unconditionally.

Laugh - seeking enjoyment, happiness, fun. Knowing that sometimes laughing can put our troubles into perspective and lighten our load. Laughing together creates bonds and can strengthen relationships.

Learn - one of my core values was learning and growth and I think this is one of the  most important things for a family to do together, to continue to develop and grow from new experiences, communication and good old fashioned reading.

Respect - respect for our family, respect for others around us, respect for rules and laws, respect for other's property and others beliefs, way of life and values. But also knowing that we deserve to be respected at all times by those in our life and if we aren't being treated with respect, then we need to look at ways to change this. 

Be Grateful - I have so much gratitude for the life we have and know that we need to be grateful for what we are given. This is something that I want to encourage in our kids from an early age. 

So, there it is. I think I am slightly off task with exactly what Deb wanted, but this is a way that I could get my head around it.

Head on over to Deb's page to see what others have done.

Chantel x

My Core Values

Last week, at Home Life Simplified, Deb asked us to link up a post about our core values. In true form, I have left it to the last minute - there are still 2 hours left in my Sunday, but the linky has just finished on Deb's page, - I thought I would write this anyway.


Like so many others, I have had a very tough time trying to narrow down my values to 5 most important. I have also had a week when the idea of 'values' both personal and organisational has popped up so many times during everyday conversation - I am not one who believes in coincidences - spooky!!! One of the main discussions I had was with one of my best friends and she was talking about how she felt she had been drifting apart from another friend, one who had been a friend from childhood. When we talked it through, it came down to those two people having very different core values now. The differing paths that their lives had taken them meant that the values most important to them now differed.


I had always believed that values were something that were inherent and did not change, but after my discussion with my good friend, it got me thinking that they do change and evolve as we grow. I think I have narrowed my core values down to 5, so here goes:


Family 
First and foremost, this will always be on top of any list. I have a large extended family, and togetherness, support and love within the family has always been important. Our sense of belonging and unity has been instilled in us since we were children and we are very close. Since getting married and having Master Z, the idea of family and the strength and love I gain from it has intensified and my little family is the most important thing in my life. I need them to exist and they need me.

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Learning / Growth
I am a person who always asks 'why?'. I don't know how I existed before Google and Wikipedia, before the answer to every question was at my finger tips. I believe that learning is a life long process and I am not happy if my nose isn't buried in a book, seeking out new information. I also, however, know that growth and learning doesn't just come from books, that they come from experience and I try to say 'Yes' as often as possible to allow myself to have as many new experiences as possible. I am a full time Mum, I work part time as an Occupational Therapist and I am studying part time for a Masters degree in a totally unrelated field. When I finish my Masters (2 more units!!!!!!) it is quite likely I will do another 6 units so that I complete a double Masters - all in a quest for more letters behind my name! Not really, I am having a ball and I get so much out of the extra studying I do - it gives me a buzz!

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Security
This is very important to me, and probably not one that I would have said would have been in my top 5 a few years ago. I want to know that my family is safe. Safe from harm, safe from illness, safe from unnecessary heartache. I suffered from panic attacks for the 7 years we lived in the UK and since our return to Perth, I have had none. Here, I feel secure, I am surrounded by people who love me and I fell protected. 


Gratitude
Being grateful for all that I have in my life is so important to me. My first thought each morning before I get out of bed is to be grateful for the day ahead and my last thought at night is being grateful for all the day has brought me. I live such a blessed life, I know I do and I am so grateful for my family, my friends and the amazing life that we live. 
Reading that back, it sounds conceited, and I am not saying that everything is rosy, but I do know that I am blessed in so many ways and I am grateful for these things and know that the challenges I face in my life will be great learning opportunities and are 'character building '(I used to hate that phrase when my mum dished it out whenever I was faced with a challenge - but now realise it is so true!).

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Health
Working for so many years in hospitals, I know how important health is. Without our health, we can't fulfill our dreams and goals. This is something I am trying to place more emphasis on in my life with more exercise and healthy eating. I  am so grateful that my family is healthy and we live in a country where we are able to access clean water, an abundance of fresh produce and nutritious food. I need to look after myself more and give myself the best chance to be healthy. 


I am happy with that list and this exercise has given me time to think about where my focus needs to be - I had an idea, but this has clarified that I am heading in the right direction.


If you want to see what others have identified as their core values, head on over to Deb's page at Home Life Simplified.

Chantel x

Imma gunna be all Kim Kardashian and get 'simple'

"i wanna be more simple in 2012" @KimKardashian on Twitter.
(This was after she had celebrated NYE at a fancy pantz party in Vegas that she was reportedly paid $600,000 USD to attend.......)

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I have only just finished catching up on all the blog posts in my reader from prior to Christmas - I haven't had a chance to comment on many sorry, but I am now up to date. Many of the posts have been about people's resolutions for 2012 or why they aren't making resolutions.

I am crap at resolutions, I have a difficult time sticking to anything (stay tuned for an upcoming post relating to the 12 wbt and my healthy living journey). My attention span is very short and this is probably one of my worst personality traits. It is the one I really try hard to counter, but then I lose interest and turn my attention elsewhere.

I know I need focus in my life, I know I need to be smarter with my goals and aims. I am on an endless quest to decide what I want to be when I grow up. My mind flits from one uni course to another trying to decide what to study, which direction to head - you would think by 35 that I would have some sense of direction. May be it is a first world problem that I have so many options available to me - that is also another post for another time.

The things I want to focus on this year, are my happiness and my family's happiness. This will mean looking at what we are doing on a day to day basis, how we are spending our money and how we are working towards our long term family goals. As part of this:

• I really want to try to improve my health. This will mean continuing the exercise regime I started as part of the 12 WBT and try to rein in my emotional eating once and for all. 

• I also want to focus on developing new and nourishing existing female friendships. I really miss having a 'best' friend close by - my best friend is unfortunately miles away and although technology brings us closer, it is not the same as having someone you can pop in for a chat and a tea or wine with and who you feel comfortable telling your deepest darkest secrets to.

• And finally, I want to work out where I want to be professionally. We know what our family goals are, what my 'mummy' goals are, I just need to determine which path I want my career to take and head on down that path.

While pondering what I wanted from 2012 and reading everyone's post from the last week, I have come across many of you being involved in Debra from Home Life Simplified's 52 Weeks to Simplify You Life Challenge and I have decided to join in. I am hopeless when it comes to meeting deadlines, so this will give me something to work on.

The first challenge Deb has set is to create a list of what went 'right' in 2011.
I know many people had a terrible 2011, filled with tragedy, grief, sickness and heartbreak. I certainly didn't have a bad 2011, but I would say it rated as a 'meh' on the awesomeness scale. There were some highs, some lows and many lessons learnt.

In 2011 the things that went 'right' were:

• We celebrated Master Z's 1st birthday with a totally over the top, not needed party, but we had fun with our friends, so it was worth it.
• Master Z started walking and talking and hasn't stopped for breath since
• Master Z started day care one day a week, and although he has had a 'bug a week', at least his immunity will be well developed by school time
• TBone had an amazing year at work, completed a major project in a leading role and I am so proud of what he achieved
• I came to the realisation that whilst I am working part time, there is no way I am going to have any progression in my role, so I may as well be doing something that I really enjoy
• I realised that I have 10 years of part time work ahead of me, so I may as well use that time to skill up and study further so that when I return to work full time I will have lots of little letters behind my name, and a huge HECS debt, but maybe not much more.....
• I completed 3 more Masters units in my MBA, so only have 2 left before I finish - then commence another one (I think -as part of my quest for many letters behind my name, see above)
• We saw the way Master Z's relationship with his grandparents has flourished and developed a further appreciation of all that they do for him and us
• We got a new car - red - as red goes faster
• We spent several weekends 'down south' enjoying family and quiet times
• We spent a week in Pemberton - and although Master Z was terribly sick most of the time, we slowed down and spent quality time together
• I started this little blog and although I don't really know what I want it to be, I am loving having a place to write, develop some skills, meet new people and recording our lives for our kids to read later
• I spent many fun filled nights with my mother's group girls and realised how lucky I am to have them drop into my life
• We had many wonderful nights with our close group of friends as we try to make time to catch up in our busy lives
• We welcomed a new nephew in June, who is growing into a beautiful little boy
• We watched with awe at every new thing Master Z mastered as he explored his environment and we wondered if we could ever love another child this much - or if there is a cuter little boy in the whole world?

I mean really??? Not in my eyes :o) I perhaps need to work on the whole watermark thing though.....

16 points, not too bad a year, hey? I am grateful for the lessons that 2011 brought with it, but have a feeling in my waters that 2012 is going to be filled with awesomeness, candy, rainbows and dream fulfillment.

BRING. IT. ON!

Linking up with 52 weeks to simplify your life. Head on over to see what the buzz is about.

Chantel x