And that's my problem. Sometimes I find I can get so caught up with my thoughts, with planning, worrying, decision making, that I forget to actually take action. I get bogged down by the thoughts in my head and get no where.
I have fallen behind in the housework, fallen behind in my paid work as we are at a particularly busy time of the year, and have fallen behind in the things I usually enjoy doing. I have been stressing about my commenting system on the blog for the last week and the fact that I wasnt able to reply to the comments on my post last week. I get so caught up in thinking how I am going to direct my blog, I only seem to be posting once a week. I stress every Monday night about getting a blog post ready for today, and the fact that if I can get it linked up at 430am my time, I will get more views and comments. This leads to a gazillion (ok, 6) posts started, but now sitting in my drafts box. It means when I wake up at 7am, there are already 40 or so blogs linked and I wonder if it's worth even posting, but I love commenting on IBOT, so you all get a mish mash version of my thoughts instead of something considered and profound - one day I will write something profound, just you wait! :) I have 863 blog posts to read in my reader, I don't want to miss out on any, but know I am going to have to declare an amnesty and start again.
I am worrying about our big move in 6 months, I am worrying about if we will ever be able to add to our family and worrying about what my life is going to look like in a year. There's my problem right there - I am stressing over things in the future that aren't totally in my control right now. It's all the small puzzle pieces that I am facing each day that I can control, and they are the ones I should be focussing on. I need to have faith and confidence that things will work out in the best way for us, even if it's not the way I planned, it will end up the way we need. I need to start fitting together the small puzzle pieces that are right in front of me and stop worrying about the big puzzle. The picture will come together naturally.
Life's like that, every one is busy, and everyone has a million balls in the air, whether you are a stay at home mum, part time worker, full time worker and we all want to be all things to all people. We all want to be perfect at everything we turn our hand to and want things to go to our plan.
I have started thinking lately that it is ok if things aren't perfect. It's ok if not everything on the list is ticked off and it's ok to ask for help if you need it. I need to get back to enjoying the journey. I need to stop spending so much time in my head and start doing.
Linking up with Jess over at Diary of a SAHM for IBOT. Head on over to check it out.
32 comments:
Chantel, you sound so much like me. I could relate to so many of the things you said, and I wrote a post about it myself a couple of weeks ago.
I'm afraid I don't have any great words of wisdom, as I'm trying to get my shit together myself, but just know that I've heard you and I COMPLETELY understand!
Big hugs xx
Well at least you got something out today, you are one step ahead of me on that one :)
I think you summed it all up perfectly in your last paragraph.
Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses #teamIBOT
Focus on the most important and take one step at a time. What's the worst thing that can happen :) Rachel xx
#teamIBOT was here x
it is okay honey that not eerything is perfectly perfect all of the time. You are human, not a Chantel -bot! xx
WE will still be here for you!!!
And I am always available for a coffee at GC anytime!! :) don't stress.. we're not going anywhere!
I know the feeling! I swear, it never rains, it pours. I don't think perfect's all it's cranked up to be - much too much hard work :) Hope some respite from all the busy is just round the corner x
My favourite quote is "your life is made up of days, how you spend your days is how you spend you life" I don't know who said it, and that isn't verbatim but you get the gist. I have a big move and change in my life coming up as well (getting married and moving towns in the next 3 months), I hope all you plans come together and you can start crossing some of those items of your list!
I need to take some of your advice and stop spending so much time in my head and start doing too. You are definitely not alone in your thoughts and it is more than alright to ask for help. I hope the big picture comes together for you :)
Chantel, it's a horrible when you feel like you're slipping behind. Sometime the list is so overhwleming it makes you procrasticate (well, it does me). Just try to take little chunks off it at a time. You will get there eventually.
I love your comment ' everything will come together naturally'. It will, I'm sure of it.
Forget about the reader. Its a relief to hit that 'mark all read' button some time.
Don't stress about the comments. I think most people forget that they asked you that all important question ;)
Remind me on a monday night, and when I get up, I'll link your post for you, if you have it schooled. I'm an hour and a half in front, and would love to do that.
Try and relax. Everything is much easier when there is no stress guiding it. xx
scheduled, not schooled!
I get like this often and I have to step back and say to myself, does it really matter at this moment. I am learning to be less than perfect and enjoying life more.
Oh Chantel, it's awful to feel like you're drowning and forever playing catch-up.
I agree with Jess about the reader. Two weeks, I actually just deleted all the subscriptions from my reader and I haven't opened it since. I don't want to constantly be 'behind' in reading up on blogs. I just want to read them when I want to read them and actually enjoy it rather than having it stress me out!
Thinking of you!
Big hugs,
Ronnie xo
Sometimes we should focus on the important things and let other things slip by the wayside. When I'm feeling like this purposely diverting my thoughts back to the moment is really helpful.
I wish you all the best and hope things settle down soon.
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Thank you for your lovely words. Xx
Thanks Rhi! Less talk, more action - trying to get me bum into gear on that one :)
Thanks Rachel! I think you're right - breaking each thing down into small bits - I am trying to put s e strategies in place to do that!! Xx
I actually lie the sound of Chantel- bot - I can imagine a daggy Dr Who villain of that description :) thank you for your kind words xx
Xx Yvette
:)
Just worked out what
Just worked out what GC was - I am always there, will have to lock it in!!!
Thanks Mandie!!! Xx
PS can I just say, your blog makes me giggle so much, love it!!!!
Wow, a wedding and a move - 2 of life's most stressful times!! Best wishes on both fronts. Love that quote xxxx
Thanks Kirsty xx
You are a wise lady Jess! Thank you. And thank you for IBOT, it is an amazing community xxx
Thanks for visiting Penny and your kind words xxx
lock it in!! I am free all day every day!! Next time you need to go give me a buzz! I'm 10 mins away from that place :) Garden City ROCKS :P
Good blog. Yes, moving is a big job. Stompy stomped here x
Reading this post gives me comfort that I'm not the only one who "thinks too much". I think what you're doing as in blogging or writing down those emotions provide a form of release even though your list of tasks aren't being completed. As women, mothers we're our own biggest critics and we're so mean to ourselves sometimes. Keep at it, I'm rootin' for you!!
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